Lesson 11- How To Say, “NO!” - The Practical Disciple

Lesson 11- How To Say, “NO!”


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How To Say, “NO!”

Welcome to Lesson 10 on saying ‘NO!” Overcommitment occurs when you fail to set proper boundaries. In this lesson we are going to start by looking at why people say ‘yes’. Specifically, I share with you some common faulty reasons people say ‘yes’ to things they really don’t want to do. We will also explore why and how you should say ‘no’. These tips should help you fell less guilt for saying ‘no’. Lastly, you will learn some planned responses that will hopefully make it easier to say ‘no.’

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  • Identify why you are saying ‘yes’ when you shouldn’t. Do that by doing the following: Reflect on your current commitments. Which do you wish you would have said ‘no’ to? Why did you say ‘yes’ in the first place? Next time you find yourself saying ‘yes’ do a quick internal check and see if you are replicating a pattern of saying ‘yes’ for the wrong reasons. If so, stop and say ‘no’.
  • Prepare some polite refusal statements, such as, “I am sorry. I wish I could help, but can’t because I am overcommitted right now.” or “I am sorry. I can’t do that I have another commitment.”


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